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Labour & Birth Story

Saturday, 8 July 2017


Jaxon Rose Emery Davis
01/04/2017
9lb 2oz

Labour was the one part of having a baby I wasn't prepared for! Unfortunately, we'd had some pretty poor experiences with our local hospitals during my pregnancy that had left me feeling pretty anxious about giving birth. After a little bit of research we decided to use a birthing unit. For us, they seemed to match up with our ideas about what we wanted and what we had imagined for bringing our little boy into the world. 

For me, the clinical approach that's taken to pregnancy and labour within a hospital just didn't fit and I decided that I wanted to try and get through the entire thing as naturally as possible. 

The birthing unit really focused on a more holistic approach. There were just three birthing rooms, each with a birthing pool and it was entirely run my midwives. Each individual in labour had their own midwife that remained with them throughout. Because of this, there were only midwives on site so the unit is only able to offer the more natural forms of pain relief such as gas and air along with things such as aromatherapy and reflexology. 


Obviously, this had some downsides. If for any reason I required any assistance during delivery, if anything went wrong or I decided I wanted a stronger form of pain relief then I would have to be transferred to a different hospital 20 minutes away via ambulance.

It also meant that if 3 women were already in labour when I needed to go in, then I would have to go to the nearest labour ward instead. 

Despite all this, at 36 weeks after finally being told my pregnancy was now low risk, we booked ourselves in and now all we had to do was wait for our little one to make his appearance.

Our birthing unit was actually a 40 minute drive from where we lived and my family kept telling me that they didn't think I'd make it to the hospital in time. I used to just roll my eyes and remind them that i'd know I was in labour waaaaay before it got to the stage I needed to push and i'd have hours sat at home before we even needed to think about making our way in.

My due date came and went and my midwife booked me in for a sweep. I'd done so much research on them and was so unsure whether it was something I wanted to have done but, at almost a week overdue I was fed up and decided to go with it.

At my appointment my midwife was shocked, I was already 3cm dilated but had experienced no pain at all. She actually told me that had I been experiencing any pain at all she would have told me to go straight in. 

I had also booked a session of induction reflexology for that afternoon (can you tell I was desperate to get this baby out) It was such a lovely experience and I would honestly recommend it to any pregnant mamas out there.


That evening, still experiencing no signs of labour I went to bed as normal.

I woke up, grumpy at the fact I still had no pain but as I stood up I had the sensation that I was peeing but I couldn't stop it. Being overdue, Id looked up 'signs of labour' about a million times and  was pretty sure this was my waters breaking but y'know, that baby was best friends with my bladder at this point so you never know..

By the time I made it to the loo I was pretty certain it was my waters but, as we were staying at my mums and Ant was still sleeping I decided to get her check. Being the biggest idiot in the universe I ran up the stairs into my mums bedroom and holy shit did my waters break... all over their bedroom carpet. I was mortified!! Mum found it hilarious, and on the plus side she'd been wanting a new carpet for ages. 

I called the birthing unit who asked me to pop in so that they could check me over so we drove down  arriving at about 12pm. At this point I still had no pain and they advised me that If nothing had progressed by 8am the next day then I would need to go into hospital for an induction. But, for now, I needed to go home. 

After arriving home mum went out to get some lunch whilst Ant and I stayed home.

I can't remember what he said but Ant made me laugh and all of sudden there was an enormous gush of water followed by a really intense pain. After destroying their carpet in the morning I'd now destroyed their sofa. 

The pains were so intense. I honestly thought that when labour started the pains would be pretty mild and pretty spaced out and then gradually, they'd become more intense but I was so so wrong. 

According to my contraction timer, right from my very first contraction they were lasting about 1 minute each and they were 2 minutes apart. 

This was not how it was supposed to be!! I already couldn't stand, walk or talk through contractions and they had only just begun

Ant called the birthing unit who advised that the contractions would more than likely ease off, becoming further apart and less intense... This didn't happen for me.

I decided I needed to go in so strapping myself up to my tens machine as we went we made our way to the birthing unit. 


When I arrived they were convinced I wouldn't be far enough along to stay but when they checked me I was already 6cm dilated and was able to get straight into the birthing pool. 

Once in the pool I honestly completely zoned out. I closed my eyes and didn't speak to anybody. 

The midwife, Ant and my Mum kept asking me whether I wanted any gas and air but I kept refusing putting it off until I really felt I needed it. 

About 3 hours into labour I began to get the urge to push, at first the midwife questioned why I was pushing. I vaguely remember shouting at her telling her my body was pushing. The sensation is so strange but it amazes me. Your body really does take over. It completely does its own thing and you have no control. 

The midwife actually told me that although I was in labour I wasn't in "proper labour" (What does that even mean!?) and advised I get out the water in the hope that walking around would get the baby moving a little more.

I refused and decided to turn onto my knees to get more comfortable, it was at this point the midwife told me it was probably better I hadn't got out of the water as they could now see my babies head. 

After 2 pushes his head was out. I remember thinking that that was the hardest part over and within minutes i'd finally be holding my little boy. Suddenly the midwifes tone changed. She shouted at my mum to go and get another midwife and told me I needed to get out the pool.

I honestly could barely stand at this point (no surprise considering id already delivered my babies head). The midwife literally dragged me out the pool and laid me on the couch in the room. A few midwives came running into the room and at the time I had no idea what was happening. Afterwards they told me that due to a shoulder dystocia the baby had got stuck in my pelvis and was struggling to be born. They performed the McRoberts manoeuvre which involves pushing the legs back to the chest and pushing down on the abdomen. They also popped their fingers under the babies shoulders to help pull him out. 


On 1st April 2017 at 17:47 weighing 9lb 2oz, exactly 4 hours after my first contraction our little boy was born.

Welcome to the world Jaxon Rose Emery-Davis.





They threw Jax onto my chest but I was exhausted and laid completely flat so it was really difficult to get to him. After Ant had cut the cord the midwives took Jax away from me and told Ant to remove his top and gave him to Ant. Jax was silent the entire time and after a moment of panic and what felt like forever, our baby boy began to cry.

They delivered my placenta and I had a few stitches and finally, I was able to go and shower. As I stood up there was a huge gush of blood and I began to feel quite unwell. I felt so faint and every time I stood up my chest would feel really tight and  I felt as though I couldn't breathe. 

The midwives told me I just needed to rest and have something to eat. My blood loss was quite heavy overnight and I was so weak I struggled to hold Jax. Ant was a trooper doing everything for both of us all night. Despite still feeling pretty shitty when I woke up I chose to go home the next day.

After 24 hours at home I began to lose large clots whenever I stood up. Each clot was about the size of a grapefruit but when we phoned the birth centre they just advised us to keep an eye on things. 

After losing five clots in total the symptoms eased. When I next saw our community midwife she told me I was extremely pale but she didn't feel a need to do bloods just yet despite me telling her all the symptoms I was experiencing. 

I spent the week feeling exhausted, breathless and emotional. I assumed everything I felt was normal after giving birth. A week later my midwife finally took my bloods and the next day I received a call telling me I needed to go into hospital for a blood transfusion as my blood count was dangerously low. 

I spent the night in hospital and after 2 units of blood I actually started feeling better and was finally able to go home with my family and enjoy being a mum. 

Its now 2 months on and I feel back to normal and although Jax is a little demon at times I cannot put into words how much I love my little family.

Although I had a bit of a rough time afterwards, I honestly feel as though I was incredibly lucky with my labour. To be able to give birth completely naturally, without pain relief and in just 4 hours.. I honestly feel like its my biggest achievement to date and I am so so proud of my body for allowing me to bring my baby boy into the world safely. The only negative I have from the whole experience was that I wasn't given any skin to skin with my baby. He was placed on my chest for all of about 10 seconds when he was delivered and after this he remained with ant on the opposite side of the room for about 2 hours whilst they delivered my placenta, gave me stitches and showered me off. I really wish they had left me with Jax and gave me and Ant a moment together before they began any aftercare. If we have another baby I think this is something I will make clear to the midwives from the start. 


....The story begins
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31 week update & 4D baby scan

Saturday, 28 January 2017




Myself and Ant were lucky enough to be gifted a 4D baby scan by my parents for Christmas and at 31 weeks it was finally time for us to get to see our tiny human!

Our scan was booked with Window to the womb, Maidstone and in all honesty the whole experience was a little bittersweet. 

I loved the fact we were allowed guests, meaning my parents and sisters were able to come along with us and I honestly don't think anything could've spoilt the experience of finally being able to put a face to the tiny little person I've been growing for the last 7 months. 

But...

The whole experience with window to the womb seemed a little impersonal. 
There was no interaction or conversation at all. They didn't ask questions about the baby, they didn't really explain anything that was on the screen (my poor dad didn't have a clue what he was looking at half  the time)  and as a private, paid for scan I really felt that the experience should have been tailored to you. The package we chose was also supposed to confirm the gender but this wasn't done, nor were we asked whether we would like it to be done..

When the scan comes to an end you're simply told to go upstairs to choose your images whilst the next customer has their scan. 

Of course I wanted to see my baby and I wanted to choose pictures to take home but I think the point that 'Window to the Womb' missed is that, that baby is our son. That was the first time we got to see what he looked like and it was the first time we got to put a face to the name we've had chosen for so long and they didn't really acknowledge that at all. I understand its their job and they probably see thousands of babies but for each person going into that room its a little more than that.

Our images are beautiful and I would 100% go and experience it all again just for those photos I'm just a little disappointed that for such an expensive experience, we felt a little let down by the service we received.

We chose to have the VIB baby scan which costs £130 and includes:

A wellbeing check & optional gender

A full 10 minute scan

A full recording of the 4d scan

All digital images on a USB

Six 6x4 prints

Two 8x10 prints 

2 Keyrings

I honestly can't fault the images at all and finally being able to see his face was such an incredible experience, I just feel that 'Window to the Womb' needs to make each persons experience a little more personal. Every pregnancy is different, every baby is different and to each person that walks into that consultation room that baby is probably the most important person in their world. 

If you want to check out window to the womb yourself then you can do so here

I honestly can't believe that i'm at 31 weeks already I feel like this whole experience has gone by so quickly!

We've finally been discharged from foetal medicine meaning there won't be any restrictions to my birth plan! The only check I still need to have is around 36 weeks because my placenta is sitting relatively low and they want to see whether its moved up on its own and if it hasn't whether its going to affect the birth at all.

How I'm Feeling... 

In general I'm actually feeling pretty okay at the moment. I've started my new job and although I love it and I'm so lucky to have been given the opportunity, the hours are pretty intense, even more so at 7 months pregnant and I'm exhausted. I can't wait for my maternity leave! Im going to try and work up until 2 weeks before my due date so I have another 6 weeks to go and then I can finally rest! Everyones predicting he's going to make an early appearance I'm just hoping he waits it out until Im officially on leave!

Symptoms...

My hips and back are still quite painful and i've been having a lot of trouble with my sciatic nerve. Im finding walking around seems to help a little and Ant has been amazing giving me massages every night before bed!

My heartburn has got even worse and I honestly think that my body is 98% Gaviscon right now! 

Over the last few days i've also noticed that by the end of the day my ankles have been swelling... pregnancy is so bloody glamorous! 

How I'm changing...

My bump seems to have had a little growth spurt and although so many people have told me I'm quite small for 31 weeks I feel huge and I'm still so uncomfortable! He's also sitting quite low for the majority of the time which makes me feel like I'm constantly needing to pee much to Ants annoyance whenever he tries to take me anywhere.

I still have no stretch marks on my tummy and no new stretch marks on my hips or legs. Every day I'm frantically checking my belly just waiting for them to appear. 

Sleep...

I've started to have more disturbed sleep now. Im waking a lot during the night and even when I don't have to be up I'm naturally waking up around 5 each morning. I'm also starting to have some really strange, vivid dreams!

Movement...

He moves pretty much all day every day. Some of his movements are quite painful now and he seems to be a huge fan of poking me in the bladder and kicking me in the ribs! He also gets hiccups quite regularly now which is such a strange feeling but feeling him move is still so surreal to me, I love it!

Cravings...

My cravings have been so strange lately! Im craving bleach... yep. bleach. Obviously I can't drink it so instead Im cleaning constantly just so that I'm able to smell it! I'm also still craving sponges and flannels. I soak them in warm water and then chew on them or suck the warm water out of them. I have absolutely no idea why and its so fucking weird but I cant stop!

Aversions...

There isn't really anything at the moment that Im hating which is good! Ant still can't wear his Sauvage but i've bought him a replacement aftershave to make it a little bit better.


Looking forward to...

I have my baby shower in a couple of weeks which I'm so excited for! 

His room is still a work in progress so I'm excited to finally have it all finished and set up for him!

MATERNITY LEAVE!! Im so tired i can't wait to finally go on leave and relax a little before we meet our tiny human! 
















24 Week Pregnancy Update!

Thursday, 22 December 2016



So at 26 weeks Im finally getting around to posting my 24 week update...

So much has changed since my last post which is why i've been so shit and absent again!

After falling pregnant unexpectedly and having to defer my 2nd year of university I didnt have a secure or reliable job. I was working as a carer for an agency and as soon as they found out I was pregnant they decided that there were no longer shifts available for me.

I started applying for jobs and have secured a permanent position that I start training for in January, how i managed it at 6 months pregnant i have no idea but I'm so happy!

Until I start my training i've taken on a full time retail position just for the Christmas period which is crazy but as long as I know I'm earning money and securing a future for our little boy then I don't care how crazy it is.


How I'm Feeling...

I'm really really tired but I think thats because i've been working such long hours. Other than that, most days I feel completely fine.

Symptoms...

The pain in my sciatic nerve has continued on and off and i think the fact I'm on my feet for 8hrs a day whilst working probably isn't helping the problem!

For the last week or so I've had such bad heartburn! Gaviscon is my best friend right now. Ive also starting becoming really uncomfortable in the evenings particularly around my ribs which makes moving around really difficult and uncomfortable!

How I'm changing...

I have such a neat little bump now which I absolutely love!

Still no stretch marks on my bump, the only new ones I have are a couple around the back of my knees.

Sleep...

Im still sleeping well, although I'm feeling exhausted as soon as I wake up. I've started sleeping with a pregnancy pillow and Its made things 10x more comfortable! Although those regular trips to pee are still as annoying and as frequent as before!

Movement...

I can feel movement throughout most of the day now! The kicks are so strong and I can now see my belly moving as he moves which is so surreal!

Cravings...

So over the last week or so Ive been craving sponges and flannels. I run them under the tap and suck the water out of them.. Its so weird and I have no idea why Im craving it!

Aversions...

Dior Sauvage is still the only aversion I have and working on a fragrance counter over Christmas has definitely put the strength of my stomach to the test!

Looking forward too...

Now we have a little more stability financially Im really looking forward to us getting everything ready for his nursery here, and then next year, a little sooner than we thought, moving into our own little home!

Ive finally got a list of the last few (I say few, the list is huuuge!) things we need to get and I can't wait to slowly start crossing them off bit by bit!












20 week update and gender reveal

Sunday, 13 November 2016




So today i'm 21 weeks +1 and last week we found out we're having a little boy!! 

Throughout my first trimester I was adamant I was having a boy but over the last few weeks this changed and I was convinced we'd be having a little girl. I wasn't even looking at boys clothes! I'd always said that as long as our baby was happy I'd be happy no matter what, but its still taken some time to get used to the fact i'd be having a boy.

Ant was desperate for a boy as soon as we found out I was pregnant so he's over the moon and with me being one of four girls my family are so excited to finally have a little boy in the mix!

We're currently under the Foetal Medicine Unit due to my past medical history but so far everything is perfectly healthy!

 Our boy decided to be a little wriggler during our anomaly scan so we're back in next week to monitor his growth and to finish looking at his heart as she wasn't able to get an in depth look due to his position, although we were told that at a glance, everything appeared to be normal!

How I'm feeling...

For the last 3 weeks I've felt great! I have far more energy and all of the symptoms I experienced within my first trimester have disappeared. 

Symptoms...

I've been experiencing pain in my hips along with pain in my sciatic nerve. 

I've also been experienceing frequent headaches. From weeks 13-15 I was experiencing them almost every day and paracetamol wasn't helping to ease the pain at all. They're far more occasional now but are still pretty intense when they do decide to make an appearance. 

Although fairly normal with a growing bump i've been experiencing both sharp and cramping pains in my stomach. I've been reassured the pain is due to my ligaments stretching as my bump grows but I definitely underestimated how frequently i'd experience the pains.

How I'm changing...

I definitely have a neat little bump now but the size fluctuates day to day. Some days I do just look a little bloated, other days I feel huge! When the bump is more noticeable my tummy can be pretty uncomfortable.

So far I've been fairly lucky and haven't found any new stretch marks since the first trimester. The ones I do have sit on my hips and at the very top of my thighs!

Sleep...

 I'm still sleeping relatively well although I'm waking frequently throughout the night to pee! My stomach is starting to feel a little uncomfortable when I lie on my side and I keep throwing my leg over ant to help lift my belly a little so I'm in desperate need of a pregnancy pillow now. 

Movement...

I experienced a couple of ripples quite early on but was a little unsure as to whether they were movements. They gradually increased and now Im feeling a lot of movement and little kicks. He seems to be getting stronger every day and this evening Ant was able to feel him kick for the first time which I was so desperate for him to experience!

Cravings...

Orange has been one of my only cravings so far, particularly Fanta. Although the craving has eased a little now, at one point Ant was having to take a nightly trip to McDonalds to buy me two large Fantas' to drink before I went to bed. 

Aversions...

The only smell that still repulses me is Dior Sauvage. Ant has had to ditch his permanently and if I walk past anyone wearing it in public it makes me sick almost instantly. 

Looking forward to...

The thing I'm looking forward to the most is organising a room for our little boy. At the moment we're still with Ants mum so we're going to begin preparing a room for him here however, early next year we're hoping to be in a position that means we'll be able to get our own little home in which case, we'll be decorating all over again to give him a permanent bedroom!


I think I'm planning on doing pregnancy updates every 4 weeks with a couple of 'normal' posts dotted in between (I really am going to try to not abandon this little space again) so hopefully, I will see you then for some more baby news! 





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